There are so many different teaching styles and just as many ways to learn the material as one person can think of. Throughout your educational experience I’m sure there is certain teacher’s who you remember for teaching a particular way, or not teaching a particular way. If I was in charge of hiring teachers for our students today, very technology savvy and upbeat as they are, the instructor must be able to connect. I would want a teacher that understands this culture difference and be able to embrace it and mold his class around it. Younger teachers with a closer feel for the generation he is instructing who understands the teacher student relationship, both verbally and nonverbally. As student’s get older participation seems to decrease with every year, 1st grade the teacher asks a question and twenty hands go up to answer. Because of years of torment for wrong answers, when asked a question to a room of 12th graders, you’re lucky if you get one hand to go up. Teachers need to understand this and have a constructive way of stimulating conversation in the class room. Positive reinforcement both verbally and nonverbally are important in assuring the students attempt to participate and feel comfortable to participate. I was recently enrolled in a course where on the first day of school the class was forced to play games to get the students familiar with one another. The second day we played more games to get to know each other, by the second week of school there was conversation taking place before class and discussions were involved. Understanding how the young adults work is very important for being a successful instructor and giving your students a great chance at success.

Different situations cause different genders to act a certain way to fit in to the norms of their male and female counter parts. There are many scenes in the film Why Did I Get Married that illustrate these norms very vividly on how men act around men and how women act in the presence of other women. The film shows scenes of territorial women who mark there men and are very protective of them and men who leave the comfort of their home to find something more appealing. The conversations men have to try to impress one another of controlling their women and the women having the same conversation about controlling their men. Honesty and secrets are the underlying problems with relationships and the film shines light on the dark secrets that loom in every relationship in the movie, some more visible than others. The men were afraid to show emotion in front of their partners and women afraid to be honest with their partners on issues of great importance. These plaguing issues undermined each relationship and forced them be fixed before any chance at moving forward. When men and women compromise for the sake of love and commitment, happiness was soon to follow. This film really opened my eyes to the give and take part of relationships that have to exist. In my relationships talking on the phone is always a huge problem because I hate it and have to be going all the time and to sit in place drives me crazy. But, I have learned that compromising to a loved one will go along way in terms of making her happy even though I can’t wait to hang up the phone.

Male and Female are different in so many ways, not only in their “sex,” as Bate and Bowker say is what makes them different at birth and that it is their “gender” that makes them into presentable male and females in society (211-212). Parents and parental figures alike have a great influence on the norms that are learned during child hood that effect what others qualify as “appropriate behaviors” for members of the same sex (212). Gender norms are learned and as the child begins to feel comfortable in a certain type of group or affiliation and begin to find the boundaries of what society says is acceptable. Many traits of gender behavior are learned through the parents and what the child picks up as appropriate behavior.

Children begin to find their areas of comfort in society and develop their social skills and behavior that they believe to be appropriate and in some cases requires them to adopt both male and female norms to do so. “Androgyny” means male and female, and is a characteristic that some individuals learn because of the environment that they are presented with (230). My sister is 17 and was always looking up to me in sports and always trying to beat me at everything I tried. She always wore boy’s clothes and athletic gear and never thought about being girly for one second. Laughing at the thought of dance and cheer leading, she wanted to be on the basketball court trying to beat the boys. It wasn’t until she entered high school when she began to start learning to be a girl when I had left for school and she had my mother as her influence instead of me. She developed an androgyny personality that she can use to perform at sports in a male gender orientated norm. Turn around and go get manicures and facials with my mom after the game, in her female acceptable role. Danica Patrick is the most popular female example in our society. She is an Indy Race Car Driver and the only female to participate amongst the fleet of male competitors. She has a female personality but her counterpart male behavior makes her a feared competitor. These behaviors are present in society everywhere you turn and can be found in male and female dominate activities.